Why Group Photos at Weddings Are Like Herding Cats (and How to Make It Easier)

Ah, the beloved group shots. A classic part of any wedding day—and a potential recipe for mild chaos.

Now, don’t get me wrong—group photos are important. They’re the ones that get printed and framed, sent to nan, and treasured by family for years to come. But when it comes to actually taking them? Let’s just say there’s a reason photographers often refer to it as herding cats.

Let me paint a picture (pun intended) of what often happens:

• Uncle Dave disappears to check in at the hotel.
• Aunt Carol is mid-gossip and will not be rushed.
• The best man’s doing tequila shots with the bar staff.
• Half the group is looking at each other, not the camera.
• Someone’s checking if the baby is smiling… while not realising they’re the one looking down in the photo.
• And just as I’m about to take the shot? Five phones pop up from nowhere for “just one more for Instagram!”

Sound familiar?

Here's How I Keep It Calm and Manageable

Over the years, I’ve learned that the key to great group shots is timing and structure. That’s why I suggest we delay the group photos by at least 30 minutes after the ceremony. This gives everyone time to grab a drink, say their hellos, find their kids, fetch a lost handbag, or simply catch their breath. Trust me—people are far more cooperative once they’ve had a Prosecco or two.

Then, when it’s time, I keep it moving by working largest to smallest groups. That means we start with the big ones (like “Everyone” or “All Family”) and whittle it down. I also plan the order so each person is only called once—they show up, get all their photos done in one go, and then they’re free to enjoy the day. No back-and-forth nonsense.

I always remind my couples that even when everything runs smoothly, each group takes about 2–3 minutes. That doesn’t sound like much, but it adds up quickly. So if you've got a list of 80+ shots… well, grab a deckchair and a sandwich because we’ll be here a while.